Me too and mine's been dead for 4 years! Keep working at it, you'll get there.
New mantra, My way is not automatically the best way, it's just my way.
Please take this in the spirit it's offered, we often handicap our H's in the R because we think they do everything wrong because they don't do it the way we do it. Let him do things the way he wants, unless it's actually hurting the kids. Kids are supposed to have a different R with the father and mother. You may find that as time goes on and he doesn't feel judged, he may ask you for advice.
There's a great book called How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It-it might be helpful for you even tho you're separated and might D, you're going to have this man in your life for a long time.
Knowing how to communicate with him will make the next 21 years much easier.
Good GAL.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Keep working at it, you'll get there. 