About three weeks ago we saw our MC. She said if you saw this happening to really good friends of yours, what would you advise?
I said what I would advise as the best thing and what I want to do are two different things lol!
But I said to H that if he cannot decide what to do with himself, then he certainly can't be in a relationship. That it is not enough for me to not receive the emotional support I need. Counsellor asked if I trusted H with my emotions. I said "No".
H was shocked. I said "Would I trust him with my life, with giving me anything should I need it? Absolutely. But I do not trust him with my emotions."
At the end of that session,I said that he has to be good with him before he moves anywhere in our R.
H said he just wasn't 100% sure. The counsellor said that sometimes it's just a leap of faith.
I said that most often, things aren't 100% right or wrong, just more right than wrong.
Yesterday H cleaned my house. I have been busy, 18 hour days, socks are low priority.
He spent 8 hours on laundry, floors, little things, tightening stuff etc. Then he invited me over to his place for a drink after class.
After a glass of wine he said he wants to continue with MC and work on our marriage. Not see where it goes, not work on our relationship. Work on the marriage.
I also put in place boundaries at that session, H was not allowed to stay over, or any physical (other than a hug or kiss). I also told him that if he wanted to stay over, it was his call, because it would mean he was "in".
He asked to stay over on Saturday. He also took initiative and made our MC appt.
