I agree that over analyzing = obsessing.. I just wondered why you think that me writing it down and getting it out of my head was Obsessing... I thought it was more of putting it on paper & letting it go.
Staying true to my values are not ALL about him, but the values do stem from the behaviours within our relationship. So, it is fair to write how I will value myself even though it looks like its about him. Its actually about me.
In the womens support group, we were challenged to write a goal and then action steps to live that goal.
"I value myself and take responsibility for my life so that I am worthy, confident in myself and my decisions"
Action steps:
~ don't fear outcome, take "risk"... stand behind my decision ~ don't mindread, ask for clarity ~ measure success daily ~ focus on myself, not his confusion ~ retrain my thoughts. STOP "thinking Of him/rel'p" ~ reassess before speaking/responding ~ commit to weekend retreat that values self/women ~ rely on my own instint/thought/feeling ~ stop making my self worth conditional on other people ~ listen to affirmation cd's, etc ~ do not allow others to derail my life goal ~ do not submit into a less than what I deserve rel'p insert Madonna, "don't go for 2nd best baby, put your love to the test ~ speak calmly and only once. Do not feel the need to justify ~ Ask myself how I am feeling. Take care of that feeling ~ value self. dont second guess self.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
