Originally Posted By: Lostforwords

I suggest reading and alone time.....accepting just yourself.....Spend time with just yourself. Accept that just being you is okay and your will be fine.


I actually love spending quiet time alone by myself. With three young boys, I actually crave it. The only problem is that my H watches the boys at my house on his days (he is currently living with his parents). So normally I find activities to get me out of the house. I just found out that my parents will be out that evening, so I may crash at their house and drink wine on their couch and start the first season of Revenge on DVD.

Originally Posted By: willbwell

about the earlier fb post...I have started to notice,my h will say stuff to me to indicate his hurt feelings...In the past, I might beat myself up about it. how did I contribute??
I have come to find out that it is h's deal... in my head I am thinking, you big baby.
It is all about h, and even though I miss who h was, I am starting to realize he is becoming less appealing. I did have him too much on a pedestal.


Hi W - Thanks for checking in on me. I am definitely a fixer. I never want to hurt anyone and hated to see anyone upset. Even though my initial instinct is to fix, I am getting much better at realizing that it is my H's problem to deal with. I am still a WIP.

Originally Posted By: labug
I shake my head thinking about it and how much better life is without expectations and judgment (not that I'm completely free of those things #WIP smile ) I explained it to my IC as feeling untethered, freeing.

Thanks for jogging my memory. You, my friend, are doing great. There will be hills to climb but you have the tools.


Oh Bug ... I am so trying to get to this point. When I look back at the person I was a year ago, I realize just how different I am now. But I also realize that I have the way to go. The big difference is that I no longer beat myself up for taking a while to get there.