Barrybran IV - Three Years Forward, 30 Years Back

[Barrybran]

Here's a link to my previous thread:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2428512&page=1

B,

Remember the talks we had about TRULY looking in the mirror...evaluating yourself....Making positive changes. A lot of these changes you have actually fought or found ways to support not changing because they are who you are.

Now what do you think about what we were discussing? I suggest relooking in the mirror my friend. I will tell you two secrets about the self reflection mirror....One is that the bad stuff is most evident when you are the most broken. You do need to address it though and not ignore it or say "It is who I am". Go reread 25's post to recruit...another excellent post.

Secret two....What is in the mirror is not permanent....It is who you are at the moment and you can change.

I am not going to reiterate what 25 said, as she nailed it. I do ask you reread Recruits thread again....See what happens when you make slight changes and give lip service to addressing yourself first. You make changes for you B....YOU.

As for 5LL, I like the excerpts I have read. My question is why are you reading it now? Think about that...IMHO it isn't the next book you should read, but I will let you figure out why I say that.

B, I believe there is a whole stronger, more secure, more loving, and better man in you....But you have to see that and WANT to strive for it...The choice is yours.

For sure, I'd love to change. Last night was a shock to the system because I thought I was giving my wife space and testing the waters and in a split second I'm looking deeper and addressing a 30-year-old problem. My guess would be that you're referring to me picking up Way of the Superior Man next. I have that and 5LL waiting for me. I'm going to finish DR because I've made it just under half way, I'm curious to read more about the WAS and infidelity sections and in general, I like to finish things I start. I should mention here that while I may procrastinate like crazy, once I do start something meaningful it bugs me not finishing it.

I've got a lot of rereading to do it seems.