I believe I can turn things around. As it is I didn't think I was still this way so I know I can be of the mindset that I can be a better person. I hope that makes sense.
As for how I'm going turn myself around, I don't know. It's been two months since my wife told me that I brought her down and less than 24 hours since she reiterated it and told me how I did it. I'll take a few days to let it sink in. I'll look into the things you mentioned when I have some time to myself. I have 5LL waiting for me in my bedside drawer as I'm currently reading DR.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
Remember the talks we had about TRULY looking in the mirror...evaluating yourself....Making positive changes. A lot of these changes you have actually fought or found ways to support not changing because they are who you are.
Now what do you think about what we were discussing? I suggest relooking in the mirror my friend. I will tell you two secrets about the self reflection mirror....One is that the bad stuff is most evident when you are the most broken. You do need to address it though and not ignore it or say "It is who I am". Go reread 25's post to recruit...another excellent post.
Secret two....What is in the mirror is not permanent....It is who you are at the moment and you can change.
I am not going to reiterate what 25 said, as she nailed it. I do ask you reread Recruits thread again....See what happens when you make slight changes and give lip service to addressing yourself first. You make changes for you B....YOU.
As for 5LL, I like the excerpts I have read. My question is why are you reading it now? Think about that...IMHO it isn't the next book you should read, but I will let you figure out why I say that.
B, I believe there is a whole stronger, more secure, more loving, and better man in you....But you have to see that and WANT to strive for it...The choice is yours.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
