Hey R, it sounds like you kind of lost it for a while there.
We all F up from time to time. You can't change what happened, and going back to try to fix it will just make it worse.
I know it seems like this is a huge deal, but it's just one short chapter in the very long story. Don't beat yourself up about it or let it make you lose hope.
Just go back to Sandi's rules, and next time you feel like breaking one, remember what happened this time.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14