I won't give up II

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Bright,

Thanks for your thoughts and encouragement. I haven't felt much like reading here or posting lately. Honestly, I think I've been waiting for the other shoe to drop before I even try to think about what separation will mean for me emotionally. You're right about my h just wanting to do something, anything that he thinks might make his "pain" or unhappiness go away.

He has continued on his path to end our marriage. I received a text from him late this afternoon. He stated that he had the "paperwork for separation" and wanted to know if I would like him to email or bring it to me in person. I waited a bit and thought of what would cause HIM the most pain then decided to just respond with "Which ever way is most convenient for you. Either works for me." My initial thought was to have him face me with the paperwork in hand, knowing that it would cause him the most amount of pain but then decided to leave it up to him. He ended up leaving the papers in my car and then sending them via email when he got home. The email also included an offer to meet over a drink or coffee to discuss them. I haven't responded to that yet.

kml or anyone else in a Community Property State, if you're out there tonight would you mind answering a few questions? I can't contact my attorney till morning and I think I'll sleep a little better if I know a little more. The paperwork states that the separation of property and the division of debts and liabilities will "be determined at a later date". There is a Case Schedule with many deadlines for this and that with the "Trial Date" scheduled for the end of January 2015. Why isn't there be a date for separation of property and liabilities? Why would it take so much time for a separation. The other deadlines stated are for disclosure Witnesses (?), discovery, dispute resolutions etc. Having little knowledge of this process, it looks to me that at the end of the timeframe shown that we would be D not S.

I'm not surprised that he's gone through with this but I feel like I've been hit with a brick. Not sure how to reply to his offer to get together to discuss this or if I should go totally dark or what!