[/quote]Half of me wants to R, the other half wants her gone.
I'm sure each of us has said that, but here's the thing. Let's look at the second half of your statement. You can always walk away. You can control that. But because it's always an option, there's no rush.
Here's the rub. If you walk, how much and how long will you wonder if the first half of your statement would have been the better option? And you know she's in a crappy mental state right now, and so are you, so you can be pretty sure that just walking away now will leave stones unturned. And if you walk too soon, will you have given yourself time to grow and shed whatever baggage YOU brought into the breakdown.
That's what keeps me in this game anyway. If that's the eventual outcome, I'd like to think we were both in as rational a mindset as possible, versus emotionally driven, and I will have learned as much as possible.
Took me a while to get to that thinking, but if there's a clock running on this thing, it doesn't need to be mine just yet.