W came home from London tonight, quite late and very tired. I had prepared her favorite dinner which we ate together. We watched TV and I rubbed her feet and then it was time for bed.
My W uses WhatsApp all the time and I notched that she had been talking to the OM earlier. I didn't raise this as an issue (although I was p'd off) but did say that I had noticed that they had both been "online" on what's app at te same time today while she was driving home and asked if they had been texting while she was driving (this is a massive pet hate of mine as she txts and uses email while driving, even with the kids in the car.)
She asked how I knew that he had been online, and I admitted that I had his number which I had taken from her email weeks ago. I had taken a look at him for the 1st time today through his whatsapp profile and that's how I knew (know your enemy, right?!)
She justifiably became very angry and accused me of stalking them both. I told her that I wasn't stalking anyone, however had taken his number several weeks ago when I was considering contacting him and calling him out (which I did not do).
She told me make her sick, she hates me, definitely wants a divorce, doesn't know why she was making an effort to let me win her over and that if I don't let her have an easy divorce she will take the kids and I will never see them.
So right now I'm in the spare room, angry at myself and her and desperately trying to find my next move.
What do I do guys?
Me 41, W 39 Married 5 years Together 10 years S4, D2
