Thanks for the updates. It's hard for me to fathom that our M lasted 5 months. It never had a chance to survive the good or the bad.
I was BD'd after over 20 years of what I thought was a happy M. And I've heard of BD after 30 and even 40 years of M. There is no answer to "why", because even the WAS often doesn't really know why.
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I changed as a person from the first of Jan till now.
Good, but you've only just begun your journey.
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the frustrating thing to me is my W isn't giving herself a chance to see how I'm now
You need to be patient, it'll take months before she starts believing your changes aren't just tricks to get her back.
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It's like they say, "if you break a light blub in your house you don't go but another house, you fix the light blub."
Ah, but to you it's a broken light bulb. To her the whole house has burned down. When your house burns down do you go find another or do you rebuild? That's a much tougher decision than replacing a light bulb.
