I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Day 12.

We've had a good couple days. W and are are communicating a little more effortlessly in terms of our general chit-chat. Had a good night last night. Went to our sons B-ball game. Drove separate but we sat together and talked and were very nice toward each other. Dropped the kids off at the house and when I left both of us were very upbeat. Asked her opinion about which therapist to see about the temper issues I have. That's a pretty strong sticking point for her and I have to make strides in fixing that issue if this will work for the long-term. It's okay to be frustrated or mad at her. But never lose my temper to the point of scaring her.

I'll be staying at the house with the kids tonight and she'll likely be staying at her parents. Excited about this because it's been 3 nights since I've stayed at the house with the kids and this will likely be the last night until next week.

No conversation about R or M at all since she brought it up on Sunday which is good. I'll continue to let her guide that ship. It does seem like she's letting her guard down just slightly but it's really too hard to tell for sure so I'll just continue doing what I've been doing.

It feels good but until we're back under the same roof I think I have to continue doing what I have been doing. It would be so easy to jump the gun because part of me thinks if I ask her if it's time to end the separation and start working toward peicing, that she'd agree to that. But it's too soon. Again, just on Sunday she said it wasn't her final decision but she was still leaning toward divorce. Until I get signs to the contrary I think that I need to assume that's still the case.