Me: we've been in therapy for 6 months, why do you not want to do the exercises and take the advice? We've had 2 therapists together and 2 on your own. They all say the same thing.
ExW: because the advice is stupid.
Me: but you're the one that wanted therapy and a psychologist to do it. You begged me to try it.
ExW: ya for you. I don't believe in the psychobabble. I only want to continue if we do things my way. I can handle it. I don't want someone telling me how to handle trust and the A.
Me: these are recommendations from some of the best and most experienced in this field and you chose 3 of them.
ExW: because I thought they could help you.
Me: my trouble is trust with you. You had an affair
ExW: so what? I did what I wanted. It was a mistake. You must trust me and get over it and let me be private if you want this to work. Shows how much of an a$$hole you are if you dont trust me. The only way this will work is no more counselling.
Me: all four therapists and these books all say you need to be an open book or it will be a disaster.
ExW: all psycobabble! So we will do things my way right?
Me: No

Wife exits stage left in rage.


M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.