my guess is he's saying it because he has to see you every day. and you're spinning out of control with talk of reconciliation and buying houses etc. so in desperation he says something to try to calm you down, but then that throws you into another tizzy so he tries another approach, and you respond with something that causes him to react but then that backfires on him.

so you're both overreacting to each other and in continuous panic mode. and like you he doesnt know when to just stfu.

you've created this endless cycle of chaos. so its become just a matter of immediate damage control with no thoughts of future.

and "i'm confused" is such an easy way to get out of taking responsibility for ones actions. as is claiming not to understand, or being dense, or being drunk, or being mlc.



you were both in much better places before the mediator. since that meeting you've been more of a wreck. and he's been more "confused" and absolutely nothing has been accomplished.

so in that respect the mediator is a failure. she did nothing but cause confusion and overreactions. and has anything actually been legally accomplished as far as division of assets?

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".