You are right our sitches are pretty similar. It stinks but honestly I let my W bring up the conversation and make it about her. I don't really offer any excitement or added feelings that I may have about her life. Except empathy when she is bummed or has a problem then I let her know that Im listening and understanding why she feels the way she does.
if she continues to talk I may add something that is pertaining to my life but that is rare.
Keep it up, even though my W retreats to her own space I just keep up the PMA because that way if she catches me off guard I already am thinking positive thoughts and hopefully she sees this.
I do this for ME not her. It is somewhat contagious I have found out over the last two weeks we have had more interaction then in the past months.
I believe this is because she is seeing that we can talk to each other and when we do it doesn't turn into a R or M talk. This is a big 180 because I am by nature a "fixer"
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
