Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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I just read your whole sitch since you had kindly responded to mine. I was struck by some of the similarities, I got the BD on 1/6 so i'm 3 months behind you. He gave me divorce papers within a week. It was so much to process and I see my feelings written out in your posts! It [censored] but so glad others are posting so much wonderful advice and they understand. I found this board early on and started reading everything I could so by the time he moved out (just a few days ago) I was preparing to go dark and was already detaching (or trying to). We don't have kids so there is no reason for him to contact me and he hasn't yet. I was thinking the same thing as you, is this MLC or is it just over? Then I read so many kind responses you got about how it doesn't matter, we must move forward in the same way. This is their journey. I hate that you're here but at the same time i'm glad that i'm not alone when I felt I was the only one going through this craziness. It is hard to not be obsessed about it, I too am reading everything and that causes me to think about it all the time. Then I talk to friends and family. It just all happened so fast yet the time goes by so slow. I feel like it's been months and months since BD when in reality, out of nowhere it happened and divorce is now final in April and he's out the door! I got a "see ya later" when he left. no hug, no nothing. Like you, up until he left you would never know we had a bad marriage, no discussions, we slept in the same bed and ML more nights than not. I do suspect an EA and i'm sure he's making it a PA by now. Sorry to hijack your thread - just wanted to share with you that you're not alone and that your posts to me were very helpful (about the low testosterone thing we discussed). Keep posting and I know there's lots of people here that will help you through this. So happy I found this board. No one else seems to understand MLC like this place.