Thanks Job.... hence, I am conflicted. I do not know what I am doing ... at all. Thanks for the vote of confidence.

Right now all I know:

~ is that I need to STFU.
~ he has emotions/feelings/desires
~ he is not ready and/or not willing
~ I am not financially secure...still (not sure if this is the time to continue with separation...or stall for a bit, to allow less pressure)


Ken... I didn't see this until now: "the "confusion" above is quoted because i dont believe he's confused, i believe he's in damage control mode. he's trying to save the work-relationship by saying whatever he thinks will make you back-off"..... HMMMM, I need to process this! Do you think he is ONLY saying this because of saving work-rel'p? Not any part of a personal rel'p?

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)