In retrospect... I think that the councellor is suggesting time together is ... throwing all the ingredients into the recipe. To include passion and desire into the confusion to possibly help with clarity. The benefits of a good working relationship is that sex/affection helps us thru the ugly stuff. Thats why we do it. Thats why it works.

just my .02

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)