The conversation went okay. I told him that I was sorry that he was hurt, but that there was really nothing I could do about it. If my mom had included his name or directed it at him, I would have told my mom that it is inappropriate. But that is not what happened and there really was nothing for me to do. I think that my H was surprised that I made a point about his disrespectful actions on FB. He acknowledged that I was right and that he has hurt me and things continue to hurt me because of his decision to have the OW in his life. He admitted that I don't call upset every time something happens. I told him that this is why I stay off FB because it is just childish drama that I dont have time for and drama that I had no part in creating. My H admitted that he is the cause, but also still says "I am not trying to hurt you." He thinks that because he does not wake up with the intent to cause me harm that it makes the A and everything else ok.
3b, I think you did fine. I agree with Blues, your H is just being selfish and whiny. (OK I added the whiny part.) And let's face it, he probably has some guilt/shame about leaving the boys.
M - Whiny is the perfect description. It is honestly beyond ridiculous that he is coming to me for comfort after all the crap that he put me through for two years. If I went to him because I was upset about his actions, he would tell me that he is not in a position to make me feel better and that there is "nothing he can do about it." HA - Maybe try ending your A??
The good thing is that while stuff like this does bother it, it does not result in me spinning out of control. It actually just makes me wonder how long I am willing to put up with this. It is also a reminder of what I deserve and want in my life.
