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Holy cow, mic. You are nursing your baby and you are supposed to give your H (who on his own, decided to leave) 50/50 custody? That burns me up.

I kind of wonder about my H, and your H, whether they really want 50/50 or just think they are entitled to it, or should want it, or want to pay less child support, or what.

I see your H expects you to live to be 108 . . .

I got the same thing from my H about the kids being happier. If he thinks HE will be happier without me, and would prefer to jump ship rather than try to make things work, fine. Be selfish. But I don't know how he justifies the collateral damage to the kids. When we told them about the S, he just kept saying that it's something he HAS to do. And he cried. And they said, well, if it makes you so sad, why are you doing it? And he just kept saying, he HAS to do it. Like he has no choice. Like your H, he told me they will be happier because he will be happier. I might suggest that he offer up that explanation to the kids . . . .

But, you are right. None of this matters to them. They have a narrative in their heads and nothing we say or do is going to change it. So, you just make sure that you and your children get the most you are entitled to in this legal process. That's my plan.