Working on Divorce Busting every Day!

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Hi melissag
I do have a great attorney (according to my husband he asked me why did you have to hire an attorney known as being a scorched earth attorney to her opponets- Umm sorry I wasn't going to get a disillusionment - And I need to protect myself and the children finacially.)
So he also went and hired one of the best attorneys in the city.
I am being overly generous right now and I actually am (heart breaks over this) allow my son - 7 months now to spend overnights with their dad and I go in and nurse every day. I wanted to keep him - technically he could get about 4 hours a week but my other two are so close to him especially the two year old who is having melt downs about me being away - gets terrified when her "baby" leaves. I let them stay together. Both of our attorney's feel I am being overly generous. Maybe he will lose more time.
No he worked a 100 hours a week in the past. Being in politics and a L - I was and am their primary caretaker. We never wanted day care so when I would go into work they came with me or if I went to our farm and gave lessons/camps they came and my parents helped watch. In between sessions I would nurse the child that needed nursed:)He started his own firm and can work from home now but how much work can you really get done with 3 young children.
This weekend was the FIRST TIME HE EVER TOOK THEM TO THE PARK!
He has softened in his responses to me the last few weeks but the last time I reminded him it was about the kids he said "you are going to get them for 70 years whats one more day to you"
We have gotten to the point where I'm not backing down on the remaining issues. Right now we are sharing the house (one leaves when the other has parenting time but it is going to be so much harder on the kids when we have to pack them up and they leave instead of us)
Today I showed him a letter from the school stating they want our oldest (6) to take a therapy class regarding parents who are separated/divorced. I told him I wanted to ask permission first from him. "He said ok, it can't hurt" but he looked as if he was going to cry. I think and I'm probably projecting here but he's beginning to see that "Yes the kids will be hurt" Instead of his earlier blase "If I'm happy then the kids will be happier". Not that any of this will change his mind.