I was talking to my H about friends of ours that were experiencing M problems. The H has a drinking/drug problem and relasped. The W wanted him to get help or said she will leave because she wants to protect herself and kids. My H says "That is the problem with marriages and relationships. People give ultimatums and if they don't get their way they just walk out on the marriage. I hate ultimatums and think the W is wrong.". This coming from a guy who had an affair, walked out in his family and says that he just does not care to try. Heck, I did not even get an ultimatum from him.
