GAL plans this weekend. What's up guys?

[paul19510]

Wow reading what your wives are doing I realized I did a number of these things the last few years of my marriage to my H. I would either tell him that morning where I was going with the kids or just not invite him. Horse stuff was always a priority. Did not realize how much that must have hurt him. In the wishing I could change time space.
Men what is important to you in a marriage?

Hi Mic, my W's horses are her priority. Over me and the kids. before that it was other things. me and the M never were. I wanted to spend time and rekindle our friendship. We didn't. Our C called it a tree and said we needed to water and nurture it. over the past few years, I told her, we're not watering the tree. It needs it or it will wither and die.

In the final weeks of living together, I told her my arms were breaking from carrying the water buckets. I wanted help. She refused. More time at the barn and with horse friends. it really can be addictive.

Now she spends all of her spare time there and lives apart from us. Me and the kids are slowly detaching. I filed for D this week due to looming financial issues (mostly due to spending on equestrian stuff) and a need to separate us formally in order to protect me and the kids.

I don't believe that my W will ever see this for what it was...I could be wrong (I know its mind reading...but venting at the moment).... Long time friends even backed away over the past couple of years due to it. Its a shame really.

I can tell you that W hangs with a crowd that I know. the 4 people she's been hanging with are all equestrian and all 4 have M on the brink of D (W +3 others currently separated). The 5th person is the W of a friend. I spoke with him and he said their M is now straining over the constant influx of H bashing the other 4 are doing (including my W).

I'm not sure any of this really helps you, but, I think I just vented the other side.

Good luck with your situation. I look forward to reading your thread.