I just read through your thread and wanted to say you sound like a smart strong man. You seem to have your head on straight. I can relate as I'm sure we all can regarding the WAS. I can't relate to PA withdrawals though. My ex seems to block people out once she is done with them, except me for some reason(probably because we have a child). The first time my ex left me it was all hatred and resentment towards me. She had a very good reason though(my rage issues). I spent the last 2 years changing my behavior(books, counseling, podcasts etc), and she hated me for that. I got the "why didnt you do this 3 years ago!" speech. Regardless, I kept on keeping on and she finally saw my changes. Problem was, she still reacted to me as if I was still that same person. That's for her to figure out but she does know that I'm a changed person. Point is, keep doing what you're doing and eventually you will be happy with all that you've accomplished. Whether or not your w appreciates and accepts that is on her.
Regarding AS quote.... I'm sure I've said something similar along the way but my actions have always showed her that. For some reason my ex always comes to me with stuff that's on her mind. Stuff about work, family, friends etc. I'm always there to listen. I've gotten flack for that here, but it's who I've become. I think she knows that I'm always going to be there to listen to her. Her ex of all people cares what she is saying or feeling. She's even said that to me.
Good luck zew. I think you'll come out of this on top one way or another.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
