Here again, afraid it may be too little too late

[melissag]

I wouldn't file for D unless I wanted a D. I filed for S, but that was only to protect marital assets, since H was threatening to dispose of one that is very valuable.

I feel like my H actually feels LESS guilty now that I filed, because now he gets to shift the blame on me . . . because *I* filed. It's ludicrous but could just as easily go that way. I don't see how you filing will get you anything more in the D. And it wouldn't be worth it, since you don't want to be D anyway.

Now, I will say that you should use time to your advantage, if he does file. Underdog mentioned it, and it is true that the person who wants to get it done will often give up more to do so. Just something to keep in mind.

But - it doesn't sound like something you need to be thinking about yet.

You will have good days - enjoy them! If you are anything like the rest of us, you will probably be on a roller coaster of emotions for quite some time. So enjoy the good days, and keep them fresh in your mind so that when you have bad days, you can remind yourself that there is hope and happiness out there for you, and you will be OK.