Aww lost, I'm sorry you're having such a crappy day on your birthday. I know how it feels - my last birthday was awful. Until I went out with my friends and turned things around a bit. I hope you have a good birthday dinner with the ones you love.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
It was a good dinner with my girls! Wished my son would have come but he wasn't feeling well.
I started thinking about all the crap other people go thru in life, death of spouses and children for one, and how many people I know that have gone thru this and realize I need to start picking myself back up.
My biggest worry right now is my kids, they really have no idea. H would like to think that this is better for the kids because we "fight too much" but it really isn't. They don't see our R as bad....just another justification for him I guess!
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Happy birthday! I hope you got to enjoy it. Mine is coming on tbhe 27th. I am going to dinner with my kids. I am going to remember gour words from above.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Happy belated birthday ! I'm sorry you are here, and I know it's difficult, but focus on detaching. Enjoy you and your kids. They are only this age once (and so are you!)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
H had gone to the Dr when he was home, they sent him for some tests. The Drs office left a message this morning for him to call. Typically not a good sign....I will let him know to call but I'm concerned he won't update me since he's hasn't communicated with me at all.
I feel like I deserve to know what is going on with his health?
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Being able to eat is definitely a good sign! I know you still feel terrible, but notice the little ways you are getting better - eating is a big one!
I'm glad you were able to enjoy your birthday dinner with your girls.
As for the attorney visit, I know that will be hard. I went to see an attorney about two weeks into my sitch, and all I heard was "blah blah blah divorce blah blah assets blah blah blah, etc." I just sat there thinking about how stupid the whole thing is.
Maybe try to go in with a better perspective that I did. Think of it as being strong and looking out for yourself and your kids, and remember that knowledge is power.
Good luck; let us know how it goes!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
I did go in with that attitude, and it was very "practical and business like." One of the questions my sister told me to ask (after discussing it with her BF who went thru an ugly divorce where wife was hiding $$) was if I should file? Weird question since I don't want a divorce. She said there are benefits to filing first, one of which is if he's feeling guilty he'll be more likely to give me what I ask. She said she knows it sounds "slimy" but she was being practical. Curious to see if anyone else that didn't want the divorce actually filed?? Very scary since it will def speed up the process.
On another note, I texted H about the DR. asked him if he could please let us know what was going on and he responded very quickly with the news. Not a heart issue which is what I was afraid of, but have no idea how serious the issue is...time to get on WebMD and do a little research.
J
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
I'm a little concerned with myself....I have been fairly normal the past 2 days. I def. like feeling like this over the other but wonder why. This is real, he does want a D, he has cut off most communication...worried I'm in denial.
J
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
