own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[makingmagic]

But the point is that you haven't been very patient and have been pressuring. Everyone else seems to be able to see it except for you. Have you ever thought that MAYBE you're the one that's mistaken? From what I've seen, the exhaustion comes from you constantly pressuring him for answers (yes you do that and I don't care how many times you debate that you don't). Then when you get the answer YOU want you get thrown into a tizzy and add more pressure.
TRUE

I mean, come on, those of us who have been posting to you for awhile have gotten exhausted from posting to you sometimes. It seems to stem from your end even though you can't seem to see it. Again, that's your inability to see another person's POV. You just can't let it go. Then you twist the comments around (several have noticed this) and our posts to you end up being pages long. Not understanding your point

Oh and this...

"If he wasn't entertaining the OW, I would be more inclined to be patient and listen."

Is so controlling.True. But I didn't say that to him...its for my benefit

Either you listen and be patient, or you don't. There should be no conditions to this if you want to get him to open up to you.I want to listen, but I am tired of HIS confusion, which is why I suggested what he suggested...councelling