It's frustrating to try and reason with someone who's unreasonable. Our H are living in a selfish, all-about-me world.

I don't think you handled yourself poorly. You, like the rest of us, keep a lot of things to yourself. There may have been a time in our M that we would have called our H out on a lot of things, but that time has passed for now. You kept your focus on listening to him, but countered your example to make a point.

How did your H respond to your conversation?


Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014