It's frustrating to try and reason with someone who's unreasonable. Our H are living in a selfish, all-about-me world.
I don't think you handled yourself poorly. You, like the rest of us, keep a lot of things to yourself. There may have been a time in our M that we would have called our H out on a lot of things, but that time has passed for now. You kept your focus on listening to him, but countered your example to make a point.
How did your H respond to your conversation?
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014