I don't want to hijack 2S2Q's question; I was just answering Mic's question. I'll be as concise as I can:

- Plan/suggest activities for us herself OR say something along the lines of "I'm sorry, I'm really busy right now but let's do something together in the next couple of weeks";
- Yes;
- I made suggestions to go and do things. At the time I saw it as rejection but now I understand I may not have been suggesting things that she wanted to do;
- I didn't plan anything for her; only events for us. If she wanted to go out without me she'd organise her own activities with her friends;
- Left it up to her.

Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014