I am now convinced that anytime I post something positive/interesting, something negative/annoying follows.
When I got home from work, S5 was complaining that his eye/throat hurt. I decided to take him to the clinic since S3 and S1 already have ear infections and tomorrow H has the kids and I know that we would not think to take S5 if he was sick. I decided to get myself checked when I was there because I refused to go to the doctors 4 times in one week. S5 went first and he is good to go, just a cold. I, on the other hand, have a double ear infection. I seriously have not had an ear infection since I was 9. The doctor says that she does not know how I am functioning because they are so bad. Guess it was a good thing that S5 complained because I would not have gone in myself.
I get home from the doctors late, exhausted and not feeling great and I get a call from H. H is calling to let me know that he is frustrated by the mom's recent FB activity. He says that he knows that I am not really on FB and probably have not seen it. Yesterday, I guess that my SIL posted a picture on BIL wall about how any guy can make a baby but it takes a true man to be a daddy. My mom commented on the picture pretty much agreeing. Today, my mom shared one of those clip-art picture saying things about how your life changes when you have kids. I can see that my mom got it from my cousin. H called because he was hurt that she is implying that he is not a good dad.
UGHHHH...Can I tell you how much I HATE FB???? I told my H that I am sorry if he was hurt by the posts. I told him that I know how much it hurts when people are unable to respect others on FB. I tried to validate because I know how childish people can be on FB and that feelings can get hurt. And I know that my mom does not have the best opinion of my H. However, she has kept her mouth shut this entire time.
Yet, it bothered me that H brought this to my attention and was annoyed yet OW still posts all over his wall. In fact, I had gone on FB for the first time today because S5's preschool director told me that she posted an adorable picture of S5. In the process of looking for the picture, I saw a picture of H and the OW on their business trip (someone else had posted it). It hurt more than my H will ever know. Yet, I did not call him and express my frustration about his not respecting my feelings/our children etc. However, he felt the need to call me and point out his frustration despite the fact my mom did not even directly say anything about him. I know that I should not have, but I mentioned this to H. He is such a hypocrite (I did not say that to him-just thought it). He cannot see beyond his own feelings/actions and only really cares when something affects him.
I am not sure why this bothered me so much and why I was not able to handle my conversation with H better...probably the lack of sleep and ragging ear infection. I am going to eat some ice cream and watch The Bachelor and hopefully get some sleep.
Any recommendations on how I should have handled tonight's conversation better???
