own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[MrBond]

It would help if you explained what the conversation was about. From what you wrote it sounded like it revolved around his friend.

Just from what you wrote, you mindread and assume alot.

"Due to your friendship, I really feel that it is a betrayal to that cherished intimacy that seems so apparant."

A betrayal to YOU, not for him. YOU cherish it. It is apparant to YOU.

"I feel that it isnt respective of a reconcilliation or any relationship discussion."

I have no idea what this means.

"At this point, I think we should proceed with separation or if we are to have relationship talks that they be in front of a counceller who can help us sort our emotions and fears so that we are not continually going around in circles emotionally exhausting one another."

YOU are exhausting the situation. Sounds like he just was being open and honest with you and you heard things that you didn't like. Again, that's all part of the control aspect with you.

I'm only going off the one sided conversation with no context, but if he feels safe enough with you to open up, you shouldn't shut the door by saying a third party needs to be there. If you do that, he will find someone else that he feels safe to talk to one on one. If he is confused, you can lightly guide him through that. However, you have to be strong enough in yourself to do that which is why we've been pushing for GAL, etc. I don't think you understood that.

Him opening up was a positive and he was probably just verbalizing things to himself to try and make sense of it all. That "third party" term that you want to introduce is your way of protecting yourself because you're not strong enough in your belief of YOU. It will close the door.