own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[MrBond]

We can't really tell what was discussed from what you wrote.

I'm assuming he said he wants to explore a relationship with his friend. Here is what I see.

"When you have finished exploring your friendship and are ready to discuss strategies for a successful reconcilliation to let me know."

Controlling. Also tells him you're waiting for him.

"due to your friendship, I feel that it is betraying the intimacy that we once shared."

What betrayal? He's been honest with you. PLUS you haven't been "intimate" in a long time. You're trying to make him feel guilty.

"I really hope you get the help you say you want to get. Until then ...
I am afraid to word this poorly... I could use some help here. BEFORE he calls!!!"

Hard to help when we don't know what was talked about.

"That it is not honouring our relationship."

He has no obligation to have to "honor your relationship". You two were friends not husband and wife.

"I really hope you get the help you need to help through your confusion and/or fears. Until then, I think its fair that we proceed with separation."

You should have kept those to points separate. Or at least say that you want to separate rather than saying that "its fair".

"...........until then I think its only fair that we stop talking about reconcilliation/relationship until you konw what you want."

He never really discussed reconcilliation with you. That was alot of self talk on your part. Again you've been doing it time and time again. In fact, I think I predicted that he would backtrack and you are going to get upset because you thought he promised this and that.

"<<<<< if I say this, he will actuall stop talking it out with me. Inspite his new desire to "communicate" (so he says)"

He did "communicate" with you. He just told you something which you don't like to hear. Sorry but that's what communication is like. Not all of it will be what you want.