Working on Divorce Busting every Day!

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Well we had our first court date yesterday. I believe my H forgot since he called me as I was going into court and said he talked to his attorney and she said no worries he didn't have to show and I didn't need to either. I stated my attorney wanted me to be there.
The judge marked down that I was there and he was not. Not sure if that will make a difference in the future.
We have not been able to agree on all of the custody arrangements so instead of going back in forth the judge ordered that we go to mediation. Anyone that has went through that process I would really appreciate advice on what this entails.
It will just be us to and the mediator.
I also found out - SHOCKING - to me that he does not care about our real estate. This was a huge issue at the beginning. He apparently has told his attorney - we can sell both places, he will keep both, I can have one or the other. I need to find out finances before making that decision. Huge concession on his part if what he told his attorney is truly true. I think he just wants this over:(
Sad thing is we are actually becoming friends again. I had asked him about an exercise he brought up a tape to give to me. Let me have the children on his day for an event. Had me stay a bit longer. Is thankful instead of being sarcastic. It is great that we are starting to be friends but HURTS so very very much to know he does not love me. I'm glad I'm in counseling because I have am having a hard time dealing with that part.
I also found out he finally told his closest friends today that he was in the process of a divorce. He had told no one but his immediate family up until this point.
I have to say I am learning so very very much through this process.
People ask me if I am pro marriage right now. I told them if I knew how hard divorce was I would have worked so much harder at my marriage.
Sad thing is I truly see a couple of the biggest issues that caused my husband to walk away. I guess it is true what they say about hind sight being 20/20.
I will continue working every day.