Unlearning conflict avoidance - 10

[MrBond]

"I really wanted to walk with her, spend time with her, had looked forward to it. She'd also not been definitive on going to the movie this morning, and when she backed out of the walk, I felt it was yet another chance to be together going down the drain."

I don't know if you can see how much of your relationship with your D is similar to your relationship with your W. You get "turned down" (which your D was perfectly in her right to do) and instead of understanding and adapting, you got angry and sulked not saying anything.

"W and d15 spent all morning together, had walked to town for a haircut and shopping. I felt like I was not seeing much of my daughter at all, being shortchanged."

THAT is up to you to change. You've already isolated yourself from W so now it's like you're seeing your D as a toy that you need to share with a kid whom you don't like.

You've got to get over this before you lose touch with your D in general.