The only thing that she suggested to us was to have a talk where one listens and one talks, without interruptions. Then go silent for some time, and if both of us feel that there is a glimmer of hope, then we can work on reigniting the glimmer.
It's way too soon to expect any glimmers of hope. Your MC is setting up unrealistic expectations. Regarding the listening, by all means, listen to your W. Have you read DR? That's a central concept to DR- become the best listener ever. Don't beg/ plead/ negotiate/ agree/ disagree/ etc. Just listen and validate. But it doesn't go both ways, DO NOT share your feelings with her because right now she doesn't care.
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Otherwise, we should think about trial separation.
There's no "we", that is strictly your W's decision. DO NOT HELP HER in that decision.
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She told me that in her experience, when things reach a L, they seldom stop.
Leave the legal issues to lawyers and the marriage issues to a DB coach.
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I want to work on my M, but I feel that right now at least, there is no hope for it to restart... I also feel that perhaps I should cut my losses and leave now.
I've got to say, I checked your "registered" date not once, not twice but three times because I thought for sure I must be reading it wrong. You are two weeks since BD. TWO WEEKS. No, you're not ready to make a decision like that. You're going to cycle through emotions for months yet. I don't think any LBS is prepared to make a decision like that until a year after BD, there's just a heck of a lot of growing needed first.
