BUT, in my case my wife has "said" that she's as happy as she's been in years since we've been separated. Now, we've only been separated for about a month and I've only been DBing for about 20 days so it IS possible that she's just "saying" that and that isn't how she feels.
Time will tell I guess. If everything remains the same, the separation will just end up being one nail in the coffin.
My wife said the same thing after about 3 days, but I understood her and I feel she meant every word of it. She carried a lot of guilt and stress about moving out before she actually left, and when she did a lot of stress was removed.
It hurts to hear these things, but time and GAL will help you move past it. I am two months in and feel completely different that I did at your point in the S. I try to not look at her actions with anger, but from her point of view and with empathy, but lack of empathy is one of my issues.
When I was at your same timeline I felt the same nail in coffin feelings you have. But something changed in me and I felt that being alone let me think about me and myself and how I had changed in my R. Some were positive and some were negative, but these are my opinions about myself and no the W's.
Take this time to change for you and make these changes permanent.
I am fresh in my sitch and DB, but these are my feelings/opinions right now. Take them or leave them.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
