I need all the help i can get

[sandi2]

Well, you hit a nerve somewhere. What was that you were saying about knowing it could change any minute? It did.

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am every kind of b*stard. She never loved me. Today has been dreadful, she has never had such an awful time. I will never change, Etc, etc.....

What did you do or say while she was throwing all this at you? Look. If you hurt her feelings you should have apologized and if she was angry and throwing a b1tch fit, you should have called her out on it. Sometimes men's jokes are insensitive to women, but some women don't know when to drop it after you apologize.

I think Another Stander is gifted in validation. You may get some tips from him about how to do a better job. But being a former WAW, I can see how many times validation could appear like a lot of tail kissing. In your case, you do not want her to think that's what you are doing!

If she is really mad, that may not be the right time to validate, IDK. If her feelings are hurt, yes. By her telling you she didn't care that you understands how she feels, I'm thinking you have played that same song one time too many, KWIM?

Some guys (and us gals) just aren't very good at validation. When you aren't good with it, I could see it hitting another nerve. I told one LBH to just quit trying to validate his W, b/c his timing was so bad and he sounded like he was validating her bad behavior. She would act terrible toward him and he was validating it. I don't believe in validating bad behavior. I do believe there is a time and place. If you get that part down, you will have the secret.

I will tell you guys something else not to do. Do not tell a woman you know how she feels, or worse....try to tell her what she is feeling! It infuriates a woman.

Don't say the same thing every time. It sounds so shallow.

I can think of more "do not" than "do".

Find Another Stander and ask for his help.


P.S. She liked the manly behavior. That's where you start.