I agree. U have a better chance with a live-in WAS to turn things around than if you were physically separated.
I don't know about this^^^. I'd like some data to support it, though I'm not sure how that would be obtained.
In my sitch, h leaving lowered the tension level big time. And over time, it gave me the chance to work on MY issues, a lot better than if he'd been there in my face the whole time.
The changes I made were more noticeable b/c we were not together on a daily basis, and finally, by making the rare interactions we had, better/different than before, h had a lot more to miss when he was gone.
The Contrast between the world HE was creating for himself and the homelife I was creating HERE, was huge, in time. H noticed it b/c it was blindingly obvious.
I doubt that could have happened if he had remained in the home til we got so tired of each other that one of us bolted for good.
Just my .02
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
