I'm in, wife's out

[gogofo]

TRC

I think our Ws are in a similar situation. When my W and I met she was fresh off of her Masters and I was starting my career. Fast forward 9 years and I was over committed to work and she is working on a doctorate. She is a WAW and I think having at least a partial or mild MLC.

I also heard the fact that she lost who she "was" and wanted to recapture that. I also know she felt trapped as well. IMO the only thing she could do to capture some control was to separate. Work and doctorate are a requirement but I guess our M could be optional.

She said she now remembers who she "was" and likes it, but I like it as too and more than I did 9 years ago.

She has always been self sufficient and does not need me to support her and vice versa.

I also share your sentiment about being open to friends, career, degrees, travel, etc. I have done all I could to support her on these things. She was in Dublin and Spain twice in less than 10 months. Damn that revisionist history!

I wish logic would conquer emotions and our Ws could see that they can have all of that and the support and love of their H while remaining M.

That is basically where I am is being a better more attractive H and supporting her and her endeavors while detached, giving her space, and GAL myself.

Congrats on the 11 day streak and keep at it!