Heather, I'm glad to see that you and your h are actually talking. It sounds like the negotiations are in full force. I would take the information he's given you and start some number crunching. The woman doing your books for you might be able to help you. Time to start sharpening that old pencil and begin the number crunching.
I find it interesting that he's willing to give you the house equity if you leave his retirement alone.
KML is right about one thing...take out a life insurance policy on him today and do not tell him. You need to do it before anything is put in place as a fall back for your daughter.
No 2X4's from me...because I see that communication is going forward and he's right...divorce will cost both of you money, money you could use elsewhere.
Breathe and continue to look at this as a business deal. You can do this!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
