I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Oh.....Day 11 of no conversations devolving into an argument/fight.

Starting to think of some other goals as well.

I started working out again before we were separated but after the bomb. I'm seeing VERY noticeable results. Obviously one of my goals is to keep that going indefinitely. But that's kind of generic. Something I should be doing regardless of my M.

I think another goal is to keep allowing her to initiate the conversations about the M. That seemed to have a bit of an impact on Sunday even though she said she was still leaning toward a D. I think if I EVER bring it up, she will backslide (and me as well). It seemed like she was much more open and curious about what I was doing and how I was doing. Which indicates to me that this "new me" is a bit of a mystery to her. I'm no longer wearing my heart on my sleeve. Along those lines, keep looking for signs of things I can do to show "improvement" on my end. Going to therapy for my temper is one. Just being generally happy and energetic around her and the kids is another.

She doesn't want to be around me if I'm grumpy and boring when I'm around her and the kids.