own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[LoisB]

I think there's a certain style of communicating on Magic's threads where it escalates and gets really harsh quickly.

I'm not sure this is serving anyone.

We all come here wounded. And, I know that I certainly don't have the right to judge where anyone else is at...even though I've been guilty of doing such. Sometimes harshly.

Everyone has the right to be where they are in this process.

I asked about the alcohol yesterday because, Magic, sometimes it comes off as if you have deep denial about something. I may be wrong and I probably only pick up on it because I've had/have experienced deep denial too.

Magic, I hear you being one really scared lady. And, it sounds like other people have called the shots in your life for a long time.

Just by hanging in, here on the thread, I see someone trying....trying to be better, trying to change, fighting for a better life.

And, I think everyone deserves some encouragement, not harsh criticism, when they try. The drinking thing was a mistake and you seem to acknowledge it.

I'm choosing to focus on the fact that you aren't dwelling on your H like you were. I think this is progress. This takes time and it's scary and it's painful.

That's my two cents.

And, no, Mr. Bond, I don't have a problem with YOU. I have a problem with that particular statement. I thought it was mean-spirited. I didn't hear it as playful banter. And, I expressed my opinion.