On this point I totally agree. This is my philosophy as well. That's why things on her end, for me, is moving too slow. My state though has something called "No Fault" and basically you can just say irreconcilable differences without having to prove anything. Funny they make getting loans and declaring bankruptcies harder but getting divorced easier.
My state does have "incompatibility." But it has to be agreed by the spouse who hasn't file (myself). Which I will never agree to (we actually do get along). The other is that we don't live together for a year and THEN she has grounds.
Either way, it's time. I can't remember who has it in thier signature, but there is such a thing as the gift of time. 2S2Q, some people don't have that gift and it does seem like you do.
In my case, I am still 100% hopeful until she has grounds for divorce (even then I'll probably still be hopeful). I KNOW I can do the work needed to turn this around if I have time. And that's how I'd recommend you looking at it 2S2Q. You're looking at time in reverse. Treat it as your friend, not your enemy. If you're using DB techniques consistently, then you can make this work.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
