Because I can't expect her to make a rational decision. That's part of the reason I'd never agree to a dissolution. Because that would just make it be "done" for her when I still believe VERY MUCH that our marriage is salvagable. If she does want to be "done," she'll have to do the heavy lifting. She'll have to be the one to get (and pay for) an attorney. She'll have to be the one to file for divorce. She'll have to be the one to "find" grounds for divorce (good luck to her on that one).
On this point I totally agree. This is my philosophy as well. That's why things on her end, for me, is moving too slow. My state though has something called "No Fault" and basically you can just say irreconcilable differences without having to prove anything. Funny they make getting loans and declaring bankruptcies harder but getting divorced easier.
Me 43 W 43 S 10 (Special Needs) M: 14 yrs T: 18 yrs Bomb: 09/16/12 Filed for D: WHO KNOWS???
