Did your W ask you to help her improve her communication with D? If not, stop.

Don't try to read your W's emotional state, when we do that it's usually in a way that makes us look better and them look worse.

Let it go.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss