good morning MrBond ~~ Ive been thinking about what you said about control. I have been guilty of trying to control, in the past. This time I believe to be different. I am doing/saying what I am because of letting go. The opposite of trying to control. As much as I would want the outcome to go MY way... I am not manipulating it. I am dropping the rope. When I mentioned to h about my boundary. I was not giving him an ultimatum between her and me. I was not telling him he has to get rid of her. I was telling him, he cannot have me!

The way I said it to him was probably wrong, something along these lines:

If you are interested in time with her, reconcilliation is off the table. I was not saying this in any regard to control what he does.. but, merely to suggest that Im not in this equation.

Hope this makes sense.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)