I think we all think, at the beginning, that our sitch is different, and our M will be restored right away. Most of the people here who did end up R with their spouses have VERY long timelines; usually years, not weeks or months.
Why do you think you will only end up seeing your D every other weekend? I don't know where you live, what are the custody laws there? I know that here, the courts like to see the kids spending as much time with goths parents as possible - unless the parent is not fit for some reason, every other weekend wouldn't be nearly enough.
Try not to worry about things that aren't happening yet, and that you don't even know will happen. Trust me, I did it and just made it worse on myself.
You are sooooo new to this; right now you just need to keep your head above water. Put one foot in front of the other, take care of yourself, and follow Sandi's rules!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
