I hate to say it....But at this point in both your situations validation can be seen as condescending by the WAS, but keep doing it LOL. For both of you, validation and good communication skills are new. So they are also new to your wives and possibly in their minds, a bit of "Why is he doing this now". I can go farther, but I want you guys to think about that.
As for the getting up part Recruit....Why not answer the question about how her butt looks LOL. You walked into a man catch-22 situation on that one. There was no way you would come out ahead. Now this is completely outside of DB......but think about what you said and how it would be received by the wife.
1- You are too old to get out of bed 2- You are to fat to get out of bed 3- You are to lazy to get out of bed 4- On and on LOL
Sometimes you have to think before you talk....and while you meant what you said in jest, all her thoughts are going to be you are looking down on her. It isn't that you were malicious....Just how it was received.
Pick your pants up, wipe the dust off, and get back going. A manly man doesn't let little things set him back.
