What goals are served by mentioning her being "wrong" and you being "Right?" There are times to stand up for ourselves and there are times to STFU. CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES WISELY. I no longer bother arguing with my h about anything that is not with a divorce. If he won't put the toilet seat down after I've asked twice, with eye contact, then I drop it. That's easier on all of us. Is he "right"? No. Does it matter a lot? NO...
What are your 180s? Does your m have a history of score keeping? IF SO, do NOT bring it up or it's more of the same. Lose the scorecard. Put it down.
You are the WAS trying to save your m. (She's not here. Don't FIX HER! That is Not your job! Work on you) YOU have to do what other LBSers do, which is to take that first step, and the next step, (and put your guns down.)
Then you take the next 449 steps...b/c you're the one working here trying to save your m, not her.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
