Heather I don't post very often, but I do keep up with some threads.
You are making good progress but you are still very defined by your relationship with Smokey. Maybe you have expectations about the latest text you sent?
I am not Job, with her experience and insight, but from all that you post here, that guy is nowhere near 'done'. You do need to drop the rope, get a legal agreement in place that spells out his obligations and protects you, and get on with your life. Treat him firmly and fairly, as you would wish to be treated, but do not pursue in any way shape or form. His relationship with his kids is his business, but in the longer run you will be glad you did all you could to keep it as open as possible. The rest is up to him and them. They tend to reap what they so, sadly. I really wish that my xh had a better relationship with his kids for their sake and his.
I do know how hard this is. And I made so many mistakes. I still do. I have such admiration for those who totally get on with their lives, and do not backslide, feel badly, or appear to do the stupid things I have done and continue to do. I have learned not to respond, but my xh can still get to me . . . . .
